It's your big day and you're having a whale of a time...until cranky uncle Charlie complains that it's too loud! You may roll your eyes at this point and think to yourself, 'Well, he can just suck it up! This is MY big day!'....but this rarely happens.
Generally Brides and Grooms want to avoid any stress on the day and so they give in to any opposition so as to avoid confrontation - which, unfortauntaley...ends up with the happy couple not being so very happy!
Now, most of the time the problem is actually not that the music is loud from a volume point of view...rather when people get older they can sometimes suffer from industrial deafness. This is where they can still hear in normal places (for example in the home), but in situations where there is a lot of background noise they really struggle to pick up on what's going on acoustically which can lead to frustration and embarrassment. Here's what I mean:
• There are many people talking at a wedding reception
• There are plates and cutlery and glasses chinking
• There are sudden noises like laughter
• There are other guests across the table that are each having their own conversations - sometimes up to 4 on one table!
• There is the live entertainment playing underneath all of the above noise
• Put all this together and someone with compromised hearing will be at a bit of a loss (pardon the pun!).
So, you can understand that 'cranky' Uncle Charlie may not be so cranky after all. He may just be embarrassed and frustrated and this is understandable!
Here are three tips to avoid running into the problem of your erlder guests NOT enjoying the music!
1) Give Seniors plenty of notice that there will be live entertainment at your wedding. Many times, if people are able to plan and prepare for 'discomfort' they are far better at coping with it when it arrives. By telling your elder guests in advance that there will be 'loud' music, they will be able to prepare.
2) NEVER sit your elder guests close to the band or directly in front of them. Seat them at a distance and at an angle. Sound travels directly forward and so seating them at an angle will lessen the sound (kind of how the sun is it's hottest when directly overhead, but is quite cool when first peaking over the horizon). Also, try not to seat your Seniors next to a window or anything that will bounce the sound.
3) Make sure that the band is aware that they need to be sensitive to your elderly guests' needs. I actually have a special app on my iPad that measures sound. The pic below is a screen shot that I took. This means that KeyString are always within sound restrictions (set by management) and are better able to play at a level for Senior guests.
I'm confident that by employing these three tips, YOUR elderly guests will be completely comfortable with the noise, be able to carry their own conversations without missing every second word and...everyone will be happy!
P.S. If you've got any tips you could share with other Brides on how YU plan to keep yur Senior guests happy, I'd LOVE to read them. Comment below!